If you’re looking for good life lessons, then continue reading to discover mine. Here you’ll find the life lessons I’ve learned in life (so far).
In my 24 years on this beautiful planet, I have become so much more comfortable with myself as a person, not only in my own body but also in the way I think, react and present myself to others, and I have my life lessons to thank for that.
It’s really easy to get caught up in what’s ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ when it comes to life and your approach to life lessons, but realistically no one gets life ‘right’ we all just simply do our best, and that’s all we can give. In this article I have uncovered 8 life lessons that I have learned so far that are valuable and important to me.
Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’
To most of us, it comes naturally to make others happy, and maybe even put other people before ourselves. Whilst that is a warming trait to have, sometimes putting yourself first really pays off.
From time to time it’s OK to cancel plans, say no to that extra shift, or refuse an invitation to a big night out. By saying ‘no’, the world won’t come crashing down, and things won’t change and maybe you’ll feel better for it.
Overthinking and worrying is a waste of your energy
I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve found myself fretting over something – when put into perspective – pretty trivial. For example, what if I don’t pass this exam? What did that person mean when they said that? What if my blog fails because I forgot to write that post I was going to? See, in less than a minute I have reeled off three real thoughts I’ve had.
The more you think about something, the more power you give that thought. Whenever you find yourself overthinking anything, I’d encourage you to ask yourself:
Can I change or have an influence on this thought?
- If yes – then act on it.
- If no – then stop worrying.
It’s natural to worry in certain circumstances, but overthinking isn’t something that you should let power you, you power your thoughts. I have found that 9 times out of 10 we’re able to find the inner strength to grow bigger than any thought. You might find my post on how to relax and unwind really useful.
Cut out toxic relationships
Every person deserves to love and to be loved back. To appreciate, and be appreciated back. Don’t ever settle for less than you are worth, and always stand your ground. Be liked for who you are, not for who you are not.
Enjoy every moment as much as you can
I personally find that taking a moment to appreciate a moment holds so much value. For example, a few weeks ago I saw the most breathtaking sunrise. The sky was orange and the air was crisp. Truly, it was mesmerising to witness such an artistic moment on this earth. I stood there for a full three minutes in complete awe. If I hadn’t have done that, I probably wouldn’t remember that sunrise as clearly as I do right now.
Make appreciation appointments for yourself
Each day I try to take just 2 minutes to be on my own, and think – or sometimes write down – three things that I am thankful for in that very instant. Occasionally, the thing I’m thankful for is really significant, like, I’m thankful for my family, who are always there for me. Other times, it’s something really simple, like, I’m thankful for the ice cream I had for dessert, it was delicious! It doesn’t matter how big or small something is, if it brings you joy, then it’s important. I find keeping a self-journal really handy, and I love this one from Paperchase.
No one has got it all figured out
I know all too well how easy it is to believe that people on Instagram have ‘got it all’ and really look like they have got their world all figured out. But honestly, we’re all just muddling through as best as we can. No one shares the bad times, the dark times or the sad times, and why would they?
But that shouldn’t fool you into believing that everyone else is having a great time 100% of the time, or that they have their life worked out. A brave face is a sign of strength, but not a sign of truth or underlying feelings.
Don’t punish yourself for your mistakes, learn from them and move on
Making mistakes and dwelling on them really links back to the point I made earlier about overthinking and worrying. Whenever you have regret, or make a mistake, be thankful that you made it and are able to learn from it. No one has ever lived a life without making a mistake. We’re human!
Don’t ever feel bad for being honest
In life, I have found that it is important to be as honest as I can as often as possible. Mainly because I respect people that are honest to me, and would like to give that back. But also because life is too short to pretend to be someone you’re not or pretend you’re OK when you’re not. Most of the time, nothing good comes out of masking feelings or hiding the truth.
Be as honest as you can, and people will be honest back.
Finally, just love yourself!
It really is true that to be loved and to love, you must first love yourself. You have an entire life to spend with yourself, so take care of yourself, always.
If you take just one thing away from this article, let it be that we are all learning new life lessons every day and appreciate your growth as a person, into the person you are becoming.
I hope you have found my life lessons insightful and helpful, please feel free to leave a comment!
Note: I am not a life coach, nor a professional giving advice. If you have any concerns about anything mentioned in this article then I’d recommend speaking to a professional.